People can't change! (Or can they?)

This is one phrase that drives me crazy. A person can't change. I beg to differ. I absolutely believe people can change. I myself, have changed many many times I think people don't want to change or chose not too because, let's face it change can be hard. Especially when it comes to aspect of one's self. To say you need to change is admitting that you are not perfect. Our bodies are changing all the time cells are bing made as one ones die off. Our brains are changing, our taste buds etc, but people cannot change? Yes we can, but it requires daily work and looking inward. When I was growing up my parents were the example on how not to be and I learned a lot of negative behaves and reactions from living in that environment. I realized that I was being to treat people the same way my mother did, and honestly it made me sick. I had to make a conscious effort to think first and be aware of how I was treating people and reacting to situations. It was extremely difficult at first, but you have to have to want to change. Change for yourself to be a better person, not because someone is telling to you change. I still struggle with my attitude and responding to people but I don't mind. This means that I am still learning and growing. So what do you think? Can people change and why don't they?

Recipe For Life

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Add a pinch of balance, a dash of moderation, mix well with a cup of common sense, bake at 365 days for 12 months, enjoy! 

Lol well that got cheesey quick!! I don't claim to have have life figured out but I do think that we as people tend to over-complicate things, I know I do! It took me awhile to get to where I am and I believe that it is because of my recipe.

First is balance. The is a natural balance in life. Good/evil. Right/wrong. For every act a reaction. In your personal life you have to work on balance. When bad comes you have to find the good in it or make some good. Balance the negative with a positive. While it would be awesome to have the scales tip with the weight of good things, in my world that just don't happen so I have to balance them myself.

Second is moderation. it seems like we are living in times of extreme! I see all these fad diets and man, it drives me crazy! One year you hear eggs are great. They are the "incredible, edible egg!" Then all of a sudden eggs at full of cholesterol and are bad for you. Then they went back to being good. I have seen this with many products. To me it is simple. Everything in moderation!! This goes with things in life. We need to show self control and stop over indulging. It is ok to want. Want gives you motivation. But you also be content. Don't the want take over your life. In so many was can this be dangerous and produce negative effects.

Common Sense Where has common sense gone? In the way people act and treat each is other has become deplorable! So often you hear about stopping the bullying in schools and Love one another. Where is this for adults? We have to set the example. The internet has allowed people tool rip people apart while they hid faceless behind the computer. It is simple to me. Treat others how you want to be treated! If you want to be forgiven (which I think most people at some point in their life want to be forgiven!) Then you have to forgive others, and most import forgive yourself. You are human and mistakes! Now let me ask a question. When does some need love the most? Answer: when they are less then lovable. This is a hard one, I admit. But think about it from you point of view. When you are hurt, sad, angry you don't act like an angel. You need love even if you don't want to admit it at the time.

So sorry this is a long post, I just felt it was important. And like I said I don't claim to know it all, or have all the answers. Just wanted to share what was weighing on my heart!

Xx,
Michelle

The World In Which We Live

I don't really use social media. I created a Google+ profile awhile ago and have been using that. Then I went to Tmz to post a comment and found Disqus. I watched  comments and exchanges between people and was sickened. People just attack others left and right and on a personal level. How do you attack someone on a personal level when you don't even know the person? What kind of society do we live in now? Maybe I am old fashioned. Maybe parents stopped teaching respect to others. In this day and age all you hear about is acceptance, love, respect. Where is it? While I might not agree with someone lifestyle choices, religion, or political views, it doesn't make that person less of a human for it. It is not my job to judge others. We all bleed red last I knew. I don't want someone to judge me so why would I do that to them. It is great to be passionate about issues, but i feel that one you attack someone, that person misses your point and automatically becomes defensive. Here's the thing tho, most people on the internet want you to get all worked up and fight back. I like to laugh at them and tell them they are funny because I don't care what people say, and chances are what they say to me probably isn't worse than what I have said to myself. I try to remember that people who others are most likely hurt themselves, weather they lack self esteem, or someone has hurt them. You need to forgive them, love them, and if you are religious pray for them. This is hard because it is hard to love someone when you feel that they don't deserve it, but honestly that is when they need it most. You may not be able to get through to that person but you can feel good that you rose above the hate and negativity, because they doesn't seem to many people who will.

I have not always been like this, keep in mind. It took growing up and maturing to realise. You live, you love, and hopefully learn.

What are your thoughts? How do you deal with negativity and rude people?

Xx,
Michelle